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NO TV SUMMER-

HOW IT LOOKED FOR US

This Summer we decided to remove tv and video games from our daily life.  I thought it was an awesome idea and my kids thought a nuclear bomb was going off on their social life!  The plan was to completely remove the Wii, which happened and has not re-appeared…yet.  The next step was to remove the television….well, I had nowhere to store the tv so I decided to use self-control instead.  Here’s my what/why/when of how this came about…

WHO:  MY KIDS AND ME.  I realized my kids were watching too much television and the responsibility fell square on my shoulders!  For me it was becoming an easy fix for not needing to think, plan, or interact with my kids (SO sad but true!).  So this summer plan was just as much for my heart as it was for my kids.

WHAT: NO TV, NO VIDEO GAMES….with the exception that on very few occasions I would let them watch one show in the morning (initiated by me and not them) or we would have a movie night about once a week.  It has become more like the cherry on top instead of the whole cake and frosting to our week.

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WHEN:  THE WHOLE SUMMER…and honestly this plan may be slightly adjusted and adopted into our lives permanently!  The results don’t lie.  We are only half-way through the summer and based on how it’s gone so far I don’t want to ever go back to the way it was.  In the fall I will probably allow a little more tv, but school, play and art will take up more of their time.

WHY:  There were things happening in my kids and I that I realized were detrimental to our interactions with one another and more so affecting the spiritual tone and love in our home.  There was a lot of fighting, toys were collecting dust, and I was leaning heavily on the tv-crutch.  My creativity switch was turned off (except when it was turned on for very rare occasions) and my interactions with my children didn’t venture much outside the realm of discipline, outings, bedtime stories and meal times.  And my kids were not playing “pretend” except for when friends were over.

There are 4 things that have happened since the beginning of summer.

1. My kids have been enjoying themselves immensely!  Right now, as I am typing, they are playing “Rockets to space” with a box and a pile of random toys that are slowly taking over the living room. (which is a good thing!)

2.  It’s harder on me than it is on them.  Parenting your kids in a way that is consistent and engaging is harder than plopping your kids down in front of an electronic babysitter.  I’ve found myself more tempted to turn the tv on than my kids!  But, it has gotten easier over time and I’ve also learned that the goal is not perfection…but a desire to keep trying.  And I remind myself that hard work is a good thing…just working hard at keeping my house clean isn’t good enough- more importantly my work should include quality time with my kids!

3.  Creativity and summer activities have abounded much!  I am enjoying my kids more and thinking outside the box.  Here are a few things we’ve done because our brains weren’t turned off:

a. went to the park, splash pad, and zoo many times

b. went for slushies and walks

c. I joined my kids playing in a massive puddle

d. we’ve had family craft time and played Yahtzee all together

e. reading lots of books and enjoying the reading program at the library

f. playing squirt guns on the patio and digging for worms

g. writing encouragement notes and making little gifts for our friends

4. We’ve had more time for the Lord!  The kids and I are memorizing the ABC’s of the bible.  (bible verses-one each that starts with each of the letters of the alphabet)  We’ve been singing more together and talking more about God in the milieu of life.  I find myself more in tune to discipline opportunities too, which means more time for talking about the gospel.

Because we don’t want to be push-overs and seen as just our kid’s best friend OR we don’t want to be the parent who disciplines inconsistently OR the mom who doesn’t get her stuff done; we throw the baby out with the bathwater (figuratively)!

There should be time for slushies that run all over our faces, laying on the floor and building the gigantuist tower ever, jumping through a massive puddle that’s going to soak our clothes…building smiling faces out of our lunches, reading books that have “too many words”, doing activities that are a lot of work for us- but so enjoyable for the kids…

I don’t want to be my kids’ best friend. I don’t want to be the cool mom who lets them get away with whatever they want.  BUT- I want to be the engaged mom who pays attention, interacts, listens, plays, helps, and encourages creativity and learning.  I want to show mercy, grace and treat them the way I want to be treated (within the bounds of biblical parent/child relations).  I want to give my kids a home where they will grow, flourish and see Jesus Christ…and for us right now that means less tv and more togetherness.

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Since we’ve moved

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I can’t believe it’s been 8 months since we moved for my husband to attend Seminary.  Since we’ve moved so many things have happened…

-we’ve joined an amazing church full of some of the most loving, caring, hugging, smiling, inspiring, genuine Christian people

-my husband is able to attend seminary, work and intern for Sovereign Grace AND be a great husband and father at the same time (and has now officially signed up to be a full-time student for August!)

-I am learning and growing through the teaching at the Seminary Wives Institute

-Hannah was diagnosed with tethered spinal cord and just had surgery 2 weeks ago.  God provided peace, finances, physical help and meals.

-we have a lovely little home that is meeting our needs as well as providing us a place for hospitality

-many opportunities have allowed us to go home to visit almost every month

-we have had many visitors from home including my mom who was a great help with our move and transition

-I learned how to get to the grocery store, church, and the seminary without using my GPS!

-the seminary has a free place (like a thrift store) where we’ve been able to go and get clothes, shoes and other items for free which has been a great help.

-relationships with our friends from church are starting to blossom and grow- including movie nights, packer games, crafting, meals, sitting up late to chat, discipleship and MUCH laughter~

-my husband was able to attend a song-writing retreat and has co-written a song that will be on the next Sov Grace CD

-we’ve been able to plan and attend many wonderful events: Christmas and New Years parties, birthday bashes, weekly Packer game parties, park dates, library story times, bridal shower, ladies gatherings, easter egg hunt and more!

-we’ve enjoyed much great weather which has included weekly trips to the zoo

I share all these not as a brag list, but as a testimony of God’s kindness, love and grace!  Even our trials have shown a testimony of God’s perfect timing and as Romans 8:28 says- that all things have worked together for our good and God’s glory!  I pray that as you read this your heart would be drawn to God.

I also have  a few prayer requests.  If you can, please pray for these specific things…

-our parenting (amongst a lot of school work and changing schedules) that we would stay consistent and our desire would stay on proclaiming the gospel to our children through what we say, teach and how we act towards them- especially at home.

-for opportunities to disciple, serve in our local church and share the gospel where God has planted us.

-for humility in heart and mind to see where God wants us to grow and change and to see areas in our hearts and lives that need correction and pray for godly men and women to come along side us to show us those areas.

-for school for Jon.  We do not qualify for any loans which I am sure is a true blessing because we will incur no debt while in school.  Pray that we can be good stewards of the financial support God has and will provide for us to continue through and finish school.  Pray for endurance and perseverance for Jon with his studies.

-our housing.  Right now we are living somewhere that does not fit our budget well (although it was good for the time we had it and we’re thankful it was available when we wanted to move) and we are praying for God to lead us to somewhere that can help us invest more into Jon’s schooling.  Apartments here require 2 people per bedroom and most 3 bedrooms where we are range from $750-$1,200/month. (and the $750 ones are hard to come by) BUT we know that God has it all taken care of, we just need to trust in Him with all our hearts and lean not on our own understanding. (Proverbs 3:5-8)

GOD IS GOD. HE IS FAITHFUL. HE HAS MADE A WAY FOR SINNERS TO BE RECONCILED UNTO HIMSELF.  HE LOVES US. HE IS A PERSONAL GOD.  HE HAS GIVEN US GRACE WHEN WE DESERVED ETERNAL PUNISHMENT. GOD IS GOOD.  GOD WILL PROVIDE FOR HIS PEOPLE.

31 days to organize your home

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DAY 1

OK LADIES- IT’S DAY 1 of 31 Days to Organize Your Home

Join me in doing these three things today:

1. choose 1-2 things on your counter that COULD be stored in cupboard to clear counter space. Now, move em!

2. pick one cupboard to clean out- today it’s the glasses/cups. Get rid of some mugs, glasses or old well-worn kid’s cups. How many of these do we actually need? Not 20 mugs! Not a kid’s cup with a hole in the plastic! Not those wine glasses with dust on them!

3. Find at least three things in your pantry you don’t use and throw them out or put them in a bag and hang them on your back door to give away.

THERE! That was easy! Join me tomorrow for day two! Off to my kitchen I go….

Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.
(Colossians 3:23-24 ESV)

Day 2

Today we are going to piggy-back on yesterday a little and give ourselves some liberty to tackle those areas that are unique to our kitchen.  And honestly, don’t be AFRAID to get rid of something because you think you’ll need it back.  Make sure your organizational pendulum isn’t swinging too far to the KEEP SIDE and also not too far to the GET RID OF EVERYTHING SIDE.  If you need to, now is a good time to get some accountability from a close friend! Oh kay- here we go:

1. Hows the counter top looking? Still dissatisfied?  Maybe by clearing out another cupboard you can store a few more of those “eye-sore-counter-top-clutter-bugs”.  If you haven’t pulled everything off your counter and given it a good clean in a while, today is the day! Crumb buddies like to collect behind toasters and coffee pots for regular meetings- they can have their next one in the garbage!!

2.  Tackle the un-reachable cupboards today.  Where’s the dust? Is keeping these unreachable things a must? Let that stuff go! Grab your Good-will box and turn on your good will!  Don’t just get rid of junk, get excited to get rid of really nice things that you just don’t need!!!!

3.  Where else are you storing pantry items, snack foods around your kitchen- try to organize in a way that condenses everything to the same area.  Too many cans, bags and boxes?  You are either shopping too much or not taking a stock of what you have before going to the store…hmmmm…just a little food for thought 🙂

Day 3

you can join me in doing these three things today:

1. choose 2-3 drawers or cupboards that over filled and re-arrange and use some tough love and get rid of a few things to open up some space! We don’t need overflowing containers of forks, spoons, knives, kid utensils…Which cool gadgets are sitting in your drawer that are never used… avocado peeler….etc.

2. Head to the pantry and tackle another shelf or two. Make sure to take the ripped bags and either throw them out or move the contents to container.  There’s no excuse for chaos! A trip to the dollar store for containers can be just what’s needed!

3. Take 5 minutes to shift some stuff around in your fridge, throw out the stuff from the back of the fridge and do a quick wipe down.  If it needs more than that plan a time to pull everything out and do a deep clean either today or tomorrow.  It’ll feel OOOHHH so good!

THERE! That was easy! Join me tomorrow for day 4! Off to my kitchen I go…

Day 4

Let’s head together to the dining room!
Here’s 3 things for us to do:

1. If you have a buffet table, storage bins, or shelves in the dining room: clean off the top of them and organize the inside including throwing out as much as you can! It can be painful but every crevice of our houses do not need to be stuffed or overflowing. Pick out a few things you can put in the Good-will box.  This box should be overflowing by the end of the week!

2. Head to the closet/drawer where your table cloths, napkins, and place-mats are stored. Let’s get rid of what we don’t use or don’t want!  Just because it’s nice or not broken doesn’t mean it should be kept!

3. Look around at the walls, lighting etc. Grab the Good-will bin and see if there’s anything else you can get rid of. Take a damp cloth and wipe spots and dust off the light.

DONE!

Day 5

Let’s take a stroll today into the living room.  Here is where most of your day culminates!  Therefore, here is where stuff collects!  A clean living room is not only one that looks clean, but one an x-ray machine would reveal is also organized!

1. Send the toys where they belong- in the kid’s bedroom! If you don’t have any toys in your living room than survey your knick knacks and see if you can send some to your Good-will box.

2. Pull out the cushions and clean out the toys, change, garbage that has collected there. Now, vacuum or sweep under your couches.

3. (my favorite thing to do) Re-arrange your furniture to better fit what the room is most used for. Maybe you need to take out a table or chair to make it roomier!

DONE!

Super Mom VS Abiding Mom

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SUPER MOM VS ABIDING MOM

I saw this today on facebook and thanks to Confessions of a Homeschooler we can all have a printable version — just click on the image!

 

Print this off and read it often as a sober reminder of where our hearts as women and mothers should be focused!

Motherhood Is a Calling (And Where Your Children Rank) – Desiring God

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Here are a few excerpts  from a great “Desiring God” post I read today.  The link is at the bottom if you want to read the full blog post…

Children rank way below college. Below world travel for sure. Below the ability to go out at night at your leisure. Below honing your body at the gym. Below any job you may have or hope to get. In fact, children rate below your desire to sit around and pick your toes, if that is what you want to do. Below everything. Children are the last thing you should ever spend your time doing.

Christian mothers carry their children in hostile territory. When you are in public with them, you are standing with, and defending, the objects of cultural dislike. You are publicly testifying that you value what God values, and that you refuse to value what the world values. You stand with the defenseless and in front of the needy. You represent everything that our culture hates, because you represent laying down your life for another—and laying down your life for another represents the gospel.

…a Christian should have a different paradigm. We should run to to the cross. To death. So lay down your hopes. Lay down your future. Lay down your petty annoyances. Lay down your desire to be recognized. Lay down your fussiness at your children. Lay down your perfectly clean house. Lay down your grievances about the life you are living. Lay down the imaginary life you could have had by yourself. Let it go.

The question here is not whether you are representing the gospel, it is how you are representing it. Have you given your life to your children resentfully? Do you tally every thing you do for them like a loan shark tallies debts? Or do you give them life the way God gave it to us—freely?

Stop clinging to yourself and cling to the cross. There is more joy and more life and more laughter on the other side of death than you can possibly carry alone.

Motherhood Is a Calling (And Where Your Children Rank) – Desiring God.

How have  you faced opposition as a mother?

Having a baby with RSV – my story and what to watch for

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Hello New Friends!

Our little Dolly had RSV last month.  At 6 weeks old she was inflicted with one of the top 2 viruses every mother would hope their new baby would avoid getting in the winter months.  But, knowing our Sovereign God had a plan, we took each step through this virus trusting Him.  I’ll tell our story and then share some thoughts on symptoms and helps for taking care of a baby with RSV.

Once upon a time a beautiful baby girl named Dolly was born on Christmas Eve…yep, that’s right- Christmas Eve!  But, that’s another story for another time.  Dolly was a healthy and strong baby girl weighing in at 6lbs 13oz and 19 1/2 inches long.  We brought Dolly home from the hospital the day after Christmas and older sister Princess and toddler brother Spidey-Boy were IN LOVE.  They also had terrible colds!  As much as Dad and I would’ve liked to keep the sneezing away from Dolly, the hugs and kisses were inevitable.  When Dolly was a month old she started with a little sneeze and a cough.  A few days in she started gagging more after nursing and her nose was getting VERY stuffed up.  Then came the coughing…maybe it’s whooping cough? So I listened to some examples on youtube.  Nope, maybe it’s just a cold?  Well, my mommy-instincts led me to the doctor.  When she was there she didn’t cough and didn’t do her “gagging episode” so he deemed it just a cold. (Don’t you HATE when that happens!?)  After two more nights of no sleep, sucking out her nose, the gagging and vomiting, vaporizing and using hot-shower steam…I finally decided to bring her into the E.R.  She was starting to have gagging fits so bad that her face was turning colors.  I was trusting the Lord, but I was also starting to get scared.  I decided to forget what the doctor said and in we went.  One thing I did that I would recommend if you have a smart phone is to video tape or voice-record what your child is doing to show the doctor- sometimes kids symptoms are sporadic and it helps so much to have “proof” to show.  So with sick, sad baby in tow my mom (we’ll call her Super-Mammie…Mammie is what my kids call her instead of Grandma.  I think it’s super cute- don’t you?) Super-Mammie drove us to the hospital while Daddy stayed home with Princess and Spidey-boy.  When we got to the hospital Dolly gagged, turned colors and vomited all over the E.R. bed.   Even though the doctor didn’t see it I recorded it on my phone.  When I showed it to her, she immediately called for an RSV test and asked them to get a room ready for her for monitoring overnight.  At that point I would’ve thought I’d be nervous about having to stay at the hospital with her, but because we already had such a horrible time at home the last few days before that I was SOOO happy to hear she’d be staying at the hospital.  The next few days were all a blur and felt like one big long day.  With not getting any sleep except for an hour here or there during the night and day I sometimes didn’t even know which way was up.  Amazingly though the Lord kept me strong and able to care for Dolly.  With RSV there is no medication that will help the virus, so they were just monitoring her breathing (apnea can occur in small infants with RSV), giving her oxygen through a nose tube (to help her breathe during her coughing fits), and suctioning out her nose (with a super awesome wall suctioner-I wish I had one!), and the first night giving her IV fluids to make sure she wasn’t getting dehydrated from throwing up.  She ended up losing her voice and sounding like a small kitten when she cried (I think that was the saddest part) and got Bronchiolitis (which is a common thing for RSV babies).   On the third morning the doctor came in and said we’d be able to go home.  It was a little bitter-sweet because although Dolly was over the worst of her symptoms she would still be needing constant care over the next week while she continued with coughing and needed nose suctioning.  I knew we’d be leaving the safety of the heart and breathing monitors and I would be thrown back full swing into caring for 3 kids, a husband and a home when walked out those hospital doors.  But, God was and is faithful!  The Lord worked through the amazing help of my husband, sister-in-law, mom and other friends AND the transition went so smoothly.  Dolly slowly got better and better each day and after about a week stopped gagging with her coughing spells and then after about 2 weeks didn’t need her nosed sucked out any more. Praise GOD!

Trials are a funny thing…if I saw someone else going through this situation I feel like I would’ve thought it was way worse looking from the outside then what it actually was.  Although it was scary at times and somewhat overwhelming, by the GRACE of God it was manageable and not only that, but there was a PEACE that I almost couldn’t explain through it all.

Walking away from this experience I am reminded of Romans 8:28- “God causes all things to work together for GOOD for those who LOVE Him and are called according to His purpose.”  I am so thankful for a loving, Heavenly Father who sustains me and gives me grace to face whatever circumstance I am in and for watching over Dolly and making her well again.   I am so thankful for my wonderful Savior!

 

ABOUT RSV:

WHO: Anyone can get RSV, but for adults and older kids it shows up like a common cold.  It’s mostly concerning for young babies.

WHAT: Respiratory Syncytial Virus – it is an airborne virus that gives the appearance of a common cold and is the most common cause of lung and airway infections in babies.  RSV usually happens between fall and spring.

SYMPTOMS:

Babies who have had RSV-Bronchiolitis are more apt to develop  asthma.

TREATMENTS AT THE HOSPITAL:

  • nose suctioning (wall-machine and saline)
  • oxygen
  • iv fluids
  • possible breathing treatments

HOME TREATMENT:

  • nose suctioning with a bulb syringe and saline
  • humidifier (preferably cold mist)
  • running a hot shower in the bathroom with the door shut
  • cool outdoor air
  • checking for wet diapers (dehydration)
  • keep baby sleeping propped up (swing or bouncy seat)
  • nurse or bottle feed in small increments if the baby is coughing or gagging a lot
  • Don’t burp the baby with their chin bent over your hand…keep their neck up straight for optimal breathing

tip for suctioning their nose:

put 2 drops of saline in each nostril…wait 15 seconds and then block off one nasal passage and suction the other (you will get a lot more out that way).  Make sure you are pressing as much air out of the syringe before sucking so you get the most suction while it’s in the nostril.  Repeat on other side and keep doing this until all/most snot is out. You may have to repeat every 5 minutes if it’s bad enough. (especially after feedings or after just waking up)  Also, (even for older babies) swaddle their arms in with a blanket before suctioning to lessen the difficulty and to avoid hurting the child if they make a sudden movement.

Call your doctor immediately if your baby is having trouble breathing.  It’s also best to get your baby in to see the doctor if they are having the other symptoms as well.  Most hospitals can test for RSV with a simple cotton swab of their nose.

I also highly recommend recording your baby’s instances of coughing, etc to show the doctor when you go in or to play over the phone for the nurse.  Remember that you are in charge of your child’s care, so if you are concerned it’s better to play it safe with a small baby and just bring them in.  I am SO glad I did!

 

This is not an exhaustive explanation of RSV, so please talk to your doctor or go to webmd.com for more information.

 

Any other questions post here and I will be happy to respond!

Why I am blogging

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Hello Friends and Soon-to-be Friends!

I’ve wanted to start a blog since I was teenager…something about music or photography.  Then I wrote a blog about me. That lasted for a day.  Now that I am a mom and stay home with my kids I want to start a blog as an OUTLET.  Something where I can share my interests and aspirations, ideas and crazy things I make.  I want to share about the blessings God has given me and about all the crazy things my kids say and do.  I am an entrepreneur, planner, re-organizer.  I have a daughter who has her own -isms and a toddler who genuinely thinks he’s spider-man.   My littlest one is our Dolly.  My husband is an aspiring musician so I often joke that I am married to a rock-star 🙂 I hope you enjoy hearing about all of my crazy thrift store finds, ideas for re-purposing around the home, blessings from God, about the little people in my life, my newest “business ideas” and how I run my home.  Sometimes I will even make an attempt at being funny…

Enjoy!